Nurturing Wholeness

Introduce the thought to your mind, “I am whole and complete within myself.” It is a simple thought and has obvious logic. I am simply me. What else could I be? Within us there is a quiet knowing of its truth. It is the comfort we feel when we look into the eyes of an accepting and appreciative loved one. Acceptance of self flows from this encounter and makes life feel complete.

Yet, introducing this thought to our mind may wake up an awareness of a different thought process. Most of us are living with a narrative that is running day to day, generated by the part of our mind that sees life in linearity. To this narrator our lifeline is seen as a procession of tasks and goals and we are always behind the projection of success, not good enough just yet. This narrative reminds us frequently that we are incomplete and partial and goads us on, puts us to work. This is not a bad narrative. It keeps us on track towards goals. If it is the only narrative and dominates all of our time and attention, it can bring with it a load of anxiety, depression, and a poor view of ourselves. It can add up to an underlying self-rejection that menaces the mind from within.

Perhaps both are true. I am whole and complete within myself, and I am expressing and achieving more and more. Tasks that are undertaken when we are grounded in self-acceptance feel different and better. There is evidence that we perform tasks better when we are holding ourselves in acceptance. What is your way of nurturing a sense of wholeness that is a foundation for your efforts? What is the cost of not nurturing this?

More later about methods for nurturing wholeness.

Author: Mark McGonigle, LCSW

I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with a psychotherapy practice in Kansas City, Mo. I specialize in marital and individual therapy, and I see clients of all ages.